I hope this post finds you all well and making little steps forward. Today I took a camera out on a Solstice walk with me so I could share it with you but I deleted the files by accident (yay brain!) so plan B was to film in the garden to at least get something done.
I wanted to write something short today about the festive season and the pressure it exerts on us all and how that is so overwhelming for someone with a brain injury. This time of year is hard for many people for a myriad of reasons, it can be a lonely time and also a reminder of things we have lost too. It can be hard financially as well as emotionally.
With a brain injury it becomes a time of extreme overwhelm physically, emotionally and sensory and all these things together add up to relapse and many days in bed. Whilst many of us would like to join in more with family gatherings its just not possible to maintain the level of energy needed. So if your loved one has a brain injury don’t feel they’re being awkward if they leave early or don’t make it at all, they’re simply unable to cope that day.
As for you my brain injured brethren, remove guilt from your vocabulary, DO NOT feel guilty if you’re unable to last more than a few hours or if all the people talking causes you to feel irritable and you need to escape. BE SELF-FUL. Do what you need to get through safely and calmly.
My number one tip is to do your own thing. This is what myself and Mr Braingirl do, Christmas is not a time we celebrate, we get ours in a few days early on the Winter Solstice and celebrate Yule with a nice walk, nice food and a fire. We’ve done this for a few years now and I’ve survived the festive season feeling peaceful and refreshed. There is absolutely no obligation to do anything that you don’t want to. NO regrets, NO apologies. People who love you will understand and not pressurise you into doing something you don’t want to do. If someone does try to pressurise you then be brave and give them a great big NO. Remember you live your life for you, nobody else.
If you do the big family thing, remember small chunks, lots of quiet rest breaks in another room, ear plugs for the noise, lots of hydration (I mean water not the Xmas booze!) and get yourself home and in your pyjamas when you’ve had enough.
Here’s a small part of my day today I want to share with you. I’m always available to contact if things get tough.
Have a Merry Solstice everyone, welcome back the Sun and let your light shine brightly.